my love is real.

There’s this point in my life that I experienced how to love... Truly. I’m so happy I can’t explain how beautiful it is to live. I’m happy when I’m with him; whenever he’s around I feel he loves me too. I never imagined that he’s the one I will choose to love I never imagined that our mere friendship will turn into love.  

And that was the time that I realized these 10 things to have a strong and well built relationship…

First is TRUST… trust is everything. Without trust there will be no relationship. You can have the shell of relationship but there will be nothing truly there. Think about all the people you know that question their partner about every little detail of the day. This is not trust. Trust is important for any relationship to become strong and everlasting. Second is HONESTY. Where does a relationship go without honesty? No one truly wants a relationship based on lies. Even white lies will eventually turn into great big lies that forever need to be cover up. Be honest with your partner at all costs. I can personally see no reason for any lie in a relationship. Lies are like a poisonous gas that will silently kill your relationship. The third one is SPENDING TIME TOGETHER, sounds easy right? Think again. With the hustle and bustle of this world is extremely hard to make time for anyone in your life. Sometimes you have a tendency to forget that the other person is there. Do not let this happened to you. Always make time to spend with that special person in your life. Fourth is FORGIVENESS, forgiveness is essential for a strong relationship. Now I’m not saying to forgive unfaithfulness. For that there is none? What I am saying is learn to forgive your mate’s quick tongue every now and then. Sometimes we get into moods and say things we don’t really mean. As long as this does not happen every day or even every week, take the time to find it in your heart to forgive your partner. Next DON’T FIGHT; disagreements are made to be happen. There is no doubt about that. Steer away from fighting. Fighting only fuel the fire and we always end up saying something that we really don’t mean. Hurtful… AGREE TO DISAGREE, I have found this is very important in a relationship. We know that not every couple is going to agree on everything. What successful couple does is to agree to disagree. If it is not a life threatening matter then just let it go. It is alright to not agree on everything, we would not be human if we did. That is what robots do. And next is, COMPROMISE, ah, where would this world be without compromise? Nowhere is the answer. That is exactly where your relationship will end up if you do not practice compromise. We have to understand that we will not agree on everything and when you just cannot agree to disagree you must compromise. And the other important thing is, COMMUNICATION, this is the crucial key to your relationship becoming strong. How are we to know what our partner is thinking or what is going on in their life if there is no communication. Did you know that most arguments or disagreement between couples generally stems from lack of communication? And next is LISTEN, always give your partner your full attention and really listen to what they are saying to you. There is nothing more annoying than talking to someone back. Listen when your partner has something to say or gripe is 100% crucial to a strong relationship. This goes back to communication, without it there is nothing. And last the very important thing is LOVE, without it everything will be nothing. Everyone can say the word “I love you” but not everyone knows how to show it. 

That was the 10 important things that I have learned in loving, and I do believe that all of that can help everyone to build a better and strong relationship.

-      Carla Camille –

01/01/11

10:16 PM